Comments on: Other Mothers http://maternal-dementia.com/2009/05/25/other-mothers/?utm_source=subscriber&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss Thoughts from what's left of my brain Wed, 08 Feb 2012 01:30:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Ellen McCaleb http://maternal-dementia.com/2009/05/25/other-mothers/comment-page-1/#comment-565 Ellen McCaleb Thu, 24 Sep 2009 14:54:03 +0000 http://maternal-dementia.com/?p=1470#comment-565 I'm now seven years into parenthood (girl age 7 and boy age 3 1/2). I feel I have done an excellent job at distilling the building blocks of the needs of my daughter and seeing that they are met - not perfectly of course, but adequately so that she is strong, independant and secure in knowing she is a good, valuable and loved human being. But this being a mom/professional with dreams and ideas/wife/etc. is the hardest thing anyone can do. I have no idea how women who work outside the home all week make their lives function. I'm still carrying around 10/15 unwanted pounds thanks to baby #2 and he is giving me gray hair (it's proven...stress is one cause of gray hair) and this second child, job and financial challenges has aged me more over the last three years than any other time of my life. And of course, it has taken a toll on our marriage. I don't know who said it best, but it went something like this: Life is a marathon...not a sprint. I think we can have all we want from life, but not at the same time. I’m now seven years into parenthood (girl age 7 and boy age 3 1/2). I feel I have done an excellent job at distilling the building blocks of the needs of my daughter and seeing that they are met – not perfectly of course, but adequately so that she is strong, independant and secure in knowing she is a good, valuable and loved human being. But this being a mom/professional with dreams and ideas/wife/etc. is the hardest thing anyone can do. I have no idea how women who work outside the home all week make their lives function. I’m still carrying around 10/15 unwanted pounds thanks to baby #2 and he is giving me gray hair (it’s proven…stress is one cause of gray hair) and this second child, job and financial challenges has aged me more over the last three years than any other time of my life. And of course, it has taken a toll on our marriage. I don’t know who said it best, but it went something like this: Life is a marathon…not a sprint. I think we can have all we want from life, but not at the same time.

]]> By: Mom101 http://maternal-dementia.com/2009/05/25/other-mothers/comment-page-1/#comment-383 Mom101 Thu, 28 May 2009 00:59:31 +0000 http://maternal-dementia.com/?p=1470#comment-383 You are most definitely not alone. Not by a longshot. You are most definitely not alone. Not by a longshot.

]]> By: Missy http://maternal-dementia.com/2009/05/25/other-mothers/comment-page-1/#comment-381 Missy Tue, 26 May 2009 01:56:31 +0000 http://maternal-dementia.com/?p=1470#comment-381 Amen!! Just as soon as I've got one tiny piece figured out, the whole puzzle changes! Amen!! Just as soon as I’ve got one tiny piece figured out, the whole puzzle changes!

]]> By: Cat http://maternal-dementia.com/2009/05/25/other-mothers/comment-page-1/#comment-380 Cat Tue, 26 May 2009 01:34:37 +0000 http://maternal-dementia.com/?p=1470#comment-380 I love the way you put things into perspective. We are all learning, and we learn from each other. I love being a mom and with other moms. Great blog, I can't wait to read more. I found ya on The Mom Blogs. I love the way you put things into perspective. We are all learning, and we learn from each other. I love being a mom and with other moms.

Great blog, I can’t wait to read more. I found ya on The Mom Blogs.

]]> By: MDBlogs http://maternal-dementia.com/2009/05/25/other-mothers/comment-page-1/#comment-382 MDBlogs Mon, 25 May 2009 21:26:33 +0000 http://maternal-dementia.com/?p=1470#comment-382 So true, Jeremy. I did add a little "-- and parents --" earlier in the post, but you're right, I could have done so throughout. Ask De-facto. He's battin' out fungos, too. But his average is pretty good. So true, Jeremy. I did add a little “– and parents –” earlier in the post, but you’re right, I could have done so throughout. Ask De-facto. He’s battin’ out fungos, too. But his average is pretty good.

]]> By: Jeremy http://maternal-dementia.com/2009/05/25/other-mothers/comment-page-1/#comment-379 Jeremy Mon, 25 May 2009 18:32:12 +0000 http://maternal-dementia.com/?p=1470#comment-379 Don't know if it helps to broaden the theme beyond gender, but I'd add "and fathers" to that last sentence. Especially the stay-at-home dad contingent. But maybe-- this is an off the top of my head theory-- the dads have it slightly easier if only because no one assumes that they *do* know what they're doing in the first place? So maybe they don't beat themselves up quite so much with the idea that they're somehow "supposed to" know? Don’t know if it helps to broaden the theme beyond gender, but I’d add “and fathers” to that last sentence. Especially the stay-at-home dad contingent. But maybe– this is an off the top of my head theory– the dads have it slightly easier if only because no one assumes that they *do* know what they’re doing in the first place? So maybe they don’t beat themselves up quite so much with the idea that they’re somehow “supposed to” know?

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